Life is so busy. We get pulled away from each other – distracted.
Technology can be great, but it gets in the way, and quite without realising it we can end up disrespecting and disregarding each other. One way we can remedy this is by taking more responsibility for how we use technology.
Once upon a time we were limited to how much contact we could have with people.
There was no instant messaging or text, not even email. If we wanted to connect with someone, we’d have to call on a landline. If they weren’t there, we’d have to leave a message and wait to hear back from them.
If we needed information about something, we’d have to look up a phone directory and call the company – or go to a library to gain knowledge through books.
If we wanted to buy something, we’d have to wait until the shops were open – and the same for banking and paying bills.
If we wanted to watch something on television, we’d have to wait until it was being screened. There was no Nettflix bingeing!
We didn’t need to take responsibility for the time we spent on these activities because that was already decided for us.
Now, we have all this information and connectivity whenever we want it - but we haven’t yet caught on to the fact that it's so detrimental to our relationships because although we think we’re paying attention to someone, we’re not.
We become absorbed in our phones and our devices and are not aware that we’re off down the rabbit-hole of distraction again.
What message does this give to the person you’re with?
Where do they see themselves on your list of priorities? How do you feel when you’re with someone who’s apparently with you, but they’re off somewhere else in the land of virtual connection?
I’m not saying we can’t enjoy technology - but we need to realise it’s a wild horse and it’s time for all of us to take hold of the reins if we want to be closer to the ones we love.