In the many years I’ve been helping people gain more confidence and happier relationships, there’s one question that comes up time and again ...

... how can I be more assertive without upsetting people?

Here's what ​people say:

How Kind People Get Tough

​will be ​available ​​ Autumn 2019!​​

Get on the waitlist for your discount copy

PLUS get your ​bonus lesson now: 


One Powerful Way To Make Sure ​They Hear You

​4 minutes 35

​​​I've met many people who struggle with relationships, confidence and success because they find it hard to be assertive​

They get taken for granted ​by their friends, ​family and colleagues because they’re giving out all the wrong signals​.

They never get to experience deep and fulfilling relationships because they’re scared to show their true ​self in case it ​backfires

They miss out on their own precious ​dreams because they’re so busy pleasing others.

The​y end up feeling guilty or resentful; that’s not good for their emotional and physical health

​Yet, it doesn't have to be this way. 

It is perfectly possible to ​lead an assertive life and be kind and considerate ​to others

How Kind People Get Tough is based  on more than 25 years helping clients gain confidence , have happier relationships and more fulfilling lives.


Including case studies, tools, tips and techniques on being truly assertive, in lovingly kind ways.​

PLUS Free Online Companion Course to help you put the tools, tips and techniques into practice.

Inside the Book ...

Part One: Can Kind People Be Tough?

Who are the kind people discussed in this book?

How is it possible to remain kind, caring, and considerate and be assertive?

Part Two: Why We Find It So Hard to Be Assertive

There are fundamental reasons that most human beings struggle with assertiveness. 

Find out what these are, and how to overcome them.

Part Three: Your Intentional Life Plan

To change your life, you need a vision and a guide to help you.

Learn how to simply and effectively create your own Intentional Life Plan

Part Four: How Kind People Get Respect

Learn how to stop being taken for granted, ​gain respect, be truly heard, acknowledged and valued - while still being kind and considerate


Part Five: How Kind People Speak Their Mind

Learn how to to speak up, say No, express anger in healthy ways, and set limits that people will respect

Part Six: How Kind People Get The Relationships They Deserve

Learn how to attract the right people into your life, stop giving in to people's demands and know where you stand

P​LUS ​ ​Free Online ​Companion Course

to help you put the tools, tips and techniques into practice.

How Kind People Get Tough

​will be ​available ​​ Autumn 2019!​​

Get on the waitlist for your discount copy

PLUS get your ​bonus lesson now: 


One Powerful Way To Make Sure ​They Hear You

​4 minutes 35

​W​hat makes this book different?

How Kind People Get Tough is more than ​just a book on assertiveness.

There are many great books on assertiveness, but they don’t address the ​fears people have about ​coming across as unkind, arrogant or being rejected

How Kind People Get Tough explores what TRUE assertiveness is, on every level. It will teach you how to find the balance between assertiveness, kindness and consideration to ​everyone.

PLUS, the free complimentary course offers you practical guidance on putting the techniques in the book into practice in your everyday relationships and life.


Hi, I'm Marléne Rose Shaw, a fully qualified therapist. Over the past twenty-five years, I’ve been privileged to help thousands of people.  

I love to teach people ​simple and actionable steps ​to help them make rapid shifts towards ​more confidence, overcoming anxiety and ​happier relationships.

I have a thriving practice on the Costa del Sol in Southern Spain, as well as helping many people across the globe via Skype/Zoom

I’m passionate about helping people overcome the blocks that have been keeping them stuck and unhappy, sometimes for decades, so that they are free to become the creators of their own destinies.​

I am also the author of t​he book: Out Of Fear Into Love: Life doesn't have to be a struggle

Packed full of tools and techniques from more than 25 years helping clients gain more confidence and have great relationships, this book is the ultimate guide on leading a more assertive, confident and fulfilling life.

How Kind People Get Tough

​will be ​available ​​ Autumn 2019!​​

Get on the waitlist for your discount copy

PLUS get your ​bonus lesson now: 


One Powerful Way To Make Sure ​They Hear You

​4 minutes 35