If you’re like most of us, you probably have occasions where you find it hard to say ‘no’. I've talked about this subject before and I'll be popping in from time to time with more say no tips.
Saying ‘no’ can be a challenge for us because guilt pops in. We don’t want to be mean or unkind. Or maybe we want to avoid conflict or rejection.But if we always say ‘yes’ when we want to say ‘no’ we end up feeling resentful. No point swapping guilt for resentment!
Here’s a handy tip
Use a delay tactic. It sounds almost too simple, but it if you get into this habit it will stop you getting flustered and blurting out an unwanted 'yes'
Very rarely does a request require an answer there and then.
Delay Statement Examples:
- ‘I’m not sure if I have that time free. I'll get back to you as soon as I can.’
- ‘I don’t want to say 'yes' and then let you down, so let me check my schedule. I’ll let you know tomorrow.’
If someone is pressuring you for an immediate answer, it’s very likely because they’re feeling pressured themselves. A good tactic is to say something like ‘Gosh, it sounds urgent for you.’ This will steer them towards a clearer explanation about the issue and give you space to consider it.
This is a simple tip, but start practicing it now, and you’ll find saying 'no' becomes much easier.