This week's tip is all about vulnerability.
We all feel vulnerable sometimes. Over the years I’ve found that a lot of my clients are confused about vulnerability – they mistakenly see it as being weak.
However, noticing when you feel vulnerable and taking the risk to share that with someone – that’s one of the most courageous things a person can do!
Healthy relationships, and confidence, all stem from the ability to connect well. Connecting well comes from being deeply authentic; showing the real you.
By saying things like:
This is you peeling back the mask and showing the real you.
People worry that this will invite a negative reaction, but weren’t you feeling negative anyway?
In the majority of cases people respond very well; because it gets to the heart of the matter. It invites understanding and compassion, rather than defensiveness or rejection.
And......it give’s other people permission to be vulnerable too!
So I have a little challenge for you this week. When something comes up where you’d normally squash your vulnerability down and end up being detached from someone. Or even where you’d get angry because they’ve hurt you in some way. Instead, take the courage to notice what you’re really feeling, and just say those feelings out loud
I’d love to hear your thoughts on this. Do you find it easy to express your vulnerability? Do others around you?
Until next time,
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