Have you been kind to yourself lately? We can all start out being kind to ourselves, but then when we make a mistake it's so easy to slip back into self-criticism.
Everyone makes errors of judgment sometimes, we can put our foot in it and say the wrong thing, or lose focus and do something silly. It's just human nature.
In my work as a therapist I've found that sometimes people think that judging and criticising themselves will somehow make them try harder to be a better person. The problem is it has the opposite effect.
Beating yourself up affects your mood, your self-esteem, even your relationships. It's important for human beings to feel good enough. And berating yourself for the mistakes you make simply gives your subconscious the message that you're not good enough.
That makes it very difficult to feel confident enough to make a success of the things you're trying to achieve.
Yet there’s a completely different way to view the mistakes you make in life.
Life is One Big School of wisdom
You see life is one big journey into wisdom. We exist as part of a universe that’s in a constant state of evolving; so it's only natural for us to want to evolve too.
Think about times when you’ve been at your happiest. It’s likely those times were either when:
- Your life was moving forward in some inspiring way
- You learnt something about yourself
Our challenges often provide us with the opportunity to learn the very lessons we’re meant to learn
Our mistakes and our challenges — these can all be a good thing because they give us an opportunity to learn and grow.
So the next time you feel bad about some mistake, don't beat yourself up.
Instead, ask yourself the one big question:
What can I learn from this?
And then move on with your life, a little wiser, a little more self loving.