How To Be Kind Without Sacrificing Your Own Needs

Sometimes we think about success in terms of the things we achieve, for example in our working life, or things we obtain, such as a house, a car or money. And yes, those things are part of a successful life. But there's another type of success, and that's success in our relationships. 

Successful relationships are about an equal balance of kindness.

We can have the mistaken idea that being kind means we have to sacrifice our own needs. That's off balance. When we look for balance, we can ask ourselves: how can I be kind to this person and be kind to myself also? 

The solution often lies in setting good boundaries.

When we step back and look at the bigger picture, we see that by setting boundaries we’re encouraging the other person to manage their own needs. We’re helping them grow and become more empowered. At the same time, we’re preserving our own needs. This balance makes it kinder to everyone because we can support them without sacrificing ourselves. 

And when we find this balance, our relationships get stronger. We’re often treated with more respect and less taken for granted. 

So if you can go to bed tonight knowing that you’ve been kind to yourself and to others in equal balance, then you'll have had a successful day! 

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