The Top 5 Questions People Ask About Couples Therapy

If you’re thinking about couples therapy, you’re not alone. Many people experience challenges in their relationship and couples therapy can make a real difference.

But you may be asking questions and wandering where to start. Here are the top five questions people ask about couples therapy and my answers.  You’ll also find a link to my full FAQ page with answers to all 17 questions couples most often ask.

How do we know if we need couples therapy?

Couples therapy is helpful at any stage of your relationship. Whether you’re just starting out and want to create a solid foundation for the future, or you’re facing some of the common problems that come up for couples and want to work through them before they become bigger issues, or if you’re looking to recapture the connection you once had. Couples therapy will help you move past old patterns and hurts, communicate more clearly, and reconnect with the closeness you’ve been missing

How do we find a good couples therapist?

Look for a professional couples therapist. They will have significant training, qualifications and experience.

Also ask for recommendations from people you know, or look for testimonials on the therapist's website. You can also understand more about them if they've enhanced their practice by writing books, giving talks etc. This will give you some guidance on how they work.

Make sure to get a free consultation so you can get to meet them before making a commitment.

How much does couples therapy cost?

Some therapists put their prices on their website. Others will wait to speak to you. View my fees here.

It's very useful to bear in mind that the cost of couples therapy is largely dependent on the therapist’s professional standing. The more experienced they are, the more likely it is that they can help you get results quickly. 

This means that investing in a highly qualified therapist can often be much more cost-effective for you in the long run as you’ll need far fewer sessions.

Many couples tell me that they have spent money on distractions, such as expensive holidays or lifestyle upgrades, in an attempt to ‘mend’ their difficult relationship. While these distractions have provided temporary relief, the underlying issues have always resurfaced. Addressing these issues with a professionally trained therapist means you can resolve them. 

Can couples therapy help us get over an affair?

One of the most common reasons couples come to therapy is to heal after an affair. It can feel painful and disorientating, yet therapy offers a space to understand what led to the betrayal and begin reshaping your relationship. You’ll learn how to talk honestly about what happened without blame, set clear boundaries so both partners feel safe, and decide together what openness you need as trust is gradually rebuilt.

Through this process, you’ll start to recognise the early warning signs that contributed to the disconnection, agree on a shared vision for how you want your relationship to grow, and rediscover the emotional closeness and intimacy that once brought you together.

Is it too late to save our relationship?

It’s never too late for couples therapy. I've worked with many couples who believe their relationship is beyond repair only to see a remarkable turnaround with the right professional help. Clearing unresolved hurts and learning helpful communication skills can make a profound difference.

Around 5% of the couples I help who choose to end their relationship in its current form. If you ultimately choose to part ways as a couple, my aim as a professional is to help you have the best possible ending, whether that means creating a stronger friendship, co-parenting or maintaining a stress free business partnership. The aim is to end in the healthiest way possible, with mutual respect and care.

See the full 17 questions people ask about couples therapy

Want more answers? Explore all your questions about couples therapy on the main FAQ page: Answering Your Questions About Couples Therapy.